Co-Dependency

What is Co Dependency?

Co dependency refers to patterns of relating in which a person prioritises others’ needs at the expense of their own wellbeing. This often involves excessive caretaking, difficulty setting boundaries, and fear of abandonment. Co dependency is not a character flaw but a learned survival strategy, often rooted in early relationships where emotional needs were unmet or conditional.

How Co Dependency Affects Your Life

Co dependency can lead to chronic stress, resentment, and emotional exhaustion. Many people feel responsible for others’ emotions and struggle to identify their own needs.

Relationships may feel unbalanced or unstable, and self worth often becomes tied to being needed or approved of.

What Causes Co Dependency?

Co dependency often develops in environments where emotional safety was inconsistent or where caregiving roles were reversed.

Trauma, addiction in the family, or chronic invalidation can contribute to these patterns.

Why Professional Help Makes a Difference

Therapy helps untangle identity from caretaking and build healthier boundaries.

Therapeutic Approaches That Help

Approaches include attachment focused therapy, boundary work, and self compassion practices.

Who is Affected by Co Dependency?

Co dependency affects people of all genders and relationship types.

What Recovery Can Look Like

Recovery includes stronger self identity, clearer boundaries, and more balanced relationships.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is co dependency the same as being caring?
No. Healthy care includes mutual respect and boundaries.

Realistic Case Example

Laura, a 41 year old caregiver, felt responsible for everyone around her. Therapy helped her recognise patterns and prioritise her own wellbeing.

Related Concerns

• Relationships
• Attachment Wounds
• Low Self Esteem

Next Steps

You do not need a diagnosis to explore co dependency patterns.